Although this, to act in loving way with the person that we love, exactly that it is one in such a way transtornada at the moment, is much more fortalecedor of what remaining itself moved away in a splendid isolation. The balance between the heart and its mind is the key. The pardon opens the heart for the curativa favour. It is a capacity that increases with practical, as well as its muscles they increase with the gymnastics. To the times, the way fastest for our goals is crooked. The wisdom, the love and the knowledge will the same take it the place – in house and the world. When we suffer from the disappointments and pains of the life, seen through our perceptions of the loss of what we love many times if it becomes necessary to isolate itself in self-defense.
In a certain direction, we enter in a shock state and of withdrawal of the battlefield, so that let us can take care of of the proper survival and let us not be destroyed. Our systems of reserve support assume the command and part of our essence or vivacity is reduced. But after passed the shock, the process of natural cure starts. Little by little, it is possible to come back to the life of new. The misfortunes that not destroying in them only will fortify in them.
In our free time, to the one curing in them, we will be able to open the heart to the true love, not confused for illusions and the fantasioso thought. The parts of us that we congeal to provide one natural anaesthetic to the pain of the loss – those memories meigas and shared interests – can be recouped and will be now capable to see the reality under a clearer and hot light. Stronger and better, we will be able to continue enriched, if this will be the way that we choose. But this way requires the courage to feel again to the renewed pain of which initially it withdraws – to again feel the presence of another person. alone, to alliviate, in safer places, the previously intolerable drama that shocked in them, taking us it a less painful entorpecimento. To the measure that the feelings and hesitantes acts of pardon emerge, also they will emerge fuller, richer, better equipped for the life and more perdoadores also of we ourselves. The hard and rigid marks of the anger if undo in a softer reception and complacente to the renewed life. The pardon is a regenerative process. If to remain angry for a long period of time, we will tend to recriar recordativos scenes of the original trauma that isolated in them before. This if calls ‘ ‘ compulsion of repetio’ ‘ (to who Freud if it related). The psychic cancer of the not set free anger can mutilate and kill our spirit, forcing us it a repetitive behavior and without life, while the emotional release allows in them to advance to the next act to the drama of our lives. Therefore, we do not have to play people it are, alone because they are not fit in the project who originally we had in relation they. Thus, why to play except the Love? It is our more precious merchandise. * Raymond Coast? July? Psychology – Fragmentos Psycotherapy? Analysis and Notations of reading of the Book: Lies de Amor – of the British Psychiatrist Ronald David Laing and of American Psychologist Roberta Russel? Translation of Ivo Korytowski? Mandarin Editoria, So Paulo?